Hello, my name is Damian. Until last year, I had never planned a funeral. However, when both of my parents passed away within weeks of each other, I suddenly had to plan two. I was experiencing such grief that I didn't know where to start. Thankfully, my friend put me in touch with a fantastic funeral home who guided me through the entire process. They looked after the bodies, recommended a church and helped to arrange transport for guest. I decided to start this blog to help others who need to plan a funeral. I hope you find the information useful.
Grief is hard and difficult and painful; and it is during the period when grief is most raw that people are often tasked with creating a goodbye fitting for the life of someone they loved. In the midst of emotion and sadness following the death of a loved one, planning a funeral service that encompasses everything needed can seem like an insurmountable task. And, whilst someone may have previously planned for their funeral in advance of their death, this is not the case for many people; leaving loved ones to make the necessary funeral arrangements following their bereavement.
It is difficult to face our own mortality in this way but, by making your wishes for your funeral service known prior to your death, you may be able to save your loved ones the stress of trying to navigate that difficulty whilst simultaneously dealing with their own heartache and grief. From practicalities such as choosing a venue and funeral director, through to the finer intricacies of the funeral service itself, a few key pieces of information - left for your loved ones - can make the process of planning a funeral service a little easier to bear.
A choice of funeral directors:
The role of a funeral director is to take care of the body following a death, organise the coffin and complete the necessary legal paperwork on behalf of the family. Whilst you may feel no particular affiliation or preference towards a specific funeral directors, there are a few key points to consider when deciding on which funeral directors to use. Proximity to loved ones and where the service will be held is an important practicality, but there are other things to consider, too. If you have previously attended a beautiful funeral service, the funeral directors used for that service would be a good place to start. It is also worth considering cost implications, and whether the funeral directors have a creative approach that aligns with your own vision for how you would like the service to pan out.
The right venue:
The choice in venue for a funeral service can be influenced by religion, or whether the body is to be cremated or buried. If you are religious, it is worth specifying the religious venue where you would like your funeral to place. Similarly, if you are either atheist or agnostic (and do not want a religious service), citing a secular place where you would like the funeral service to take place can be a worthwhile venture.
The little things:
Although they may seem unimportant, the small touches - such as flowers and music - can have a profound impact on the bereaved attending a funeral service. Noting down any specific songs that are special to you, or maybe have a connection to the relationship between you and your loved ones, can help those struggling with grief to feel connected to the person they have lost throughout the funeral service.
Making your wishes known prior to your death might be difficult, but making these difficult decisions can save your loved ones the stress and heartache of attempting to make them following your death.Share