Hello, my name is Damian. Until last year, I had never planned a funeral. However, when both of my parents passed away within weeks of each other, I suddenly had to plan two. I was experiencing such grief that I didn't know where to start. Thankfully, my friend put me in touch with a fantastic funeral home who guided me through the entire process. They looked after the bodies, recommended a church and helped to arrange transport for guest. I decided to start this blog to help others who need to plan a funeral. I hope you find the information useful.
When you're planning a funeral, there are a lot of decisions to be made. A funeral director can help guide you through some of them, but ultimately, it's up to you to work out what best represents the wishes of the deceased person and suits friends and family.
One of the most significant decisions is the one between burial and cremation. Sometimes, there are religious or other factors that make the choice for you, but otherwise, there are various personal points to consider. While it's unlikely to influence your decision much, you should be aware that a burial usually involves taking care of a few extra things that a cremation doesn't require.
Find a burial plot
If someone is going to be buried, you'll need to have a plot arranged in a cemetery or church graveyard. This should be one of the first things you arrange, as the rest of your funeral plans can depend on it.
Usually, your funeral director can liaise with burial sites on your behalf and help you get the perfect plot. Make sure you let them know any restraints on choosing a site, such as religious affiliation or any wishes the deceased person had.
Choose items to accompany the person
When people are buried, they're often accompanied by some personal items. Common ones are a nice outfit and some favourite jewellery, but they can be just about anything that has special meaning. They may be chosen by friends and family, or the person might have voiced their wishes in advance.
Make sure you check with other people for items they would like to be included and discuss it with your funeral director.
Design a monument
This isn't one of the more urgent things to take care of, but you should still start thinking about it early if you're able to. Burials normally take place before the monument is ready to be placed, and they'll be added at a later date.
Things to consider are the size, style, material and words of the monument. Even if you just have some rough ideas, a funeral director or stonemason can help you turn them into a full design.
Make sure your timescale works
In some cases, burials can take longer to organise than cremations. Make sure you're aware of how everything is likely to take so you can adjust your plans each step of the way. It's best to put off announcing a funeral date until you have firm confirmation of a burial plot and when it will be available.Share